It’s in the Water!

November 29, 2006 at 10:58 am | Posted in adoption, children, family, friends, People | Leave a comment

Everyone who has ever dealt with miscarriages and infertility knows that when someone you know gets pregnant, it feels like a smack in the face or a punch in the gut.  You also know, if you have read my other blogs, that 2 girls at work are pregnant.  2 way too young to be having children girls. 

Now we work retail (meaning not a big paycheck at all) and while it is a national company, we only have 12 employees in our store.  3 are men.  Yesterday, I found out that 2 more girls think they are pregnant as well.  Both are a little older than the 2 that are, they are in their mid 20’s.  However, (several others at work are saying this and I agree) these 2 should not be having kids.  One is literally very unstable emotionally in addition to financially.  Her boyfriend rarely holds a job and she goes from nice to very scary in .01 seconds.  Our boss has even told her that she is unstable.  Also, she hates kids and has sworn she never wants any.  Ever!  Her family history of emotionally unstable people is quite strong as well.  What I am saying is that everyone who knows this girl is really scared of her reproducing.  Whether she raises the baby or not. 

 The second one…ugh.  Ok, she and her boyfriend have only been back together a few months.  Her family hates him.  Her sister wouldn’t even allow him to come to her wedding in October.  I have seen him once and he is scary.  He recently lost his job. Before they got back together, she was living with another guy (we’re talking less than 3 months ago), and even after she got back together with the boyfriend, she and the other guy were still secretly talking, texting, and meeting each other.  The current boyfriend had an order of protection out against her until after they got back together.  He had to go to court a few weeks after she moved back in with him to have it removed.  This is just the tip of the iceberg with them.  They think they are having a baby. 

These 2 instances scare me more than the 2 kids that are pregnant.  At least the kids are in more stable relationships (they have been with their boyfriends for 3 years each) with guys who actually keep their jobs and are not emotionally unstable or dating guys who are emotionally unstable.  The first girl that thinks she is pregnant (the one who is really scary) quite often is homeless and living in her truck.  Why?  Because she doesn’t make much money and her boyfriend can’t keep a job.  Not that I am saying anything against her because of that but that is no way to raise a baby.

Ok, so if you were doing the math, 12 employees, 3 are men, 2 are pregnant, 2 think they are.  That leaves 5 people not pregnant.  Now the joke at work is of course…”It’s in the water!”  My boss keeps saying that from now on whenever she hires someone new she will not be doing a drug test but she will be doing pregnancy tests and may even start doing them randomly for those of us already at work.  Everyone thinks this is pretty funny, but, with miscarriages and infertility in my life, I am just not laughing. 

Ok, so I got this off my chest.  I guess I will stop here for now.  Until next time kiddos…….


Happy Thanksgiving

November 22, 2006 at 11:42 am | Posted in adoption, children, family, friends, People | 1 Comment

Just a note to wish you all a wonderful Thanksgiving. I hope everyone gets to spend time with loved ones and have a wonderful meal. Eat way too much turkey, have that extra piece of pie that you don’t need (you know you want it), and give someone you care about an extra hug. (There is plenty of time for losing that extra turkey and pie in January! See my web site Oasis Life Science!) Maybe call someone you haven’t talked to in a while just to tell lthem you are thinking of them.

Have a blessed and safe Thanksgiving.

Until the next time we talk…..

Baby Shower and Pregnant Girls!

November 20, 2006 at 12:44 pm | Posted in children, friends, People | Leave a comment

The baby shower for my girlfriend went really well.  She got a lot of really nice stuff.  She knows she is having a boy (due Christmas Eve) and so she got everything in blue, of course.  It turned out really great.  Everyone had a good time.  I didn’t get everything done for the shower that I wanted but no one noticed.  In fact, Mike had to help me get stuff done.  I did not finish the afghan because I need more yarn and no one has any in stock of the color and brand I need.  I guess she’ll just have to get it when the baby is born.  Although I got a really cool basket to put it in when I do give it to them. 

I had a few things I wanted to accomplish on my 2 days off last week (Thursday and Friday).  I had a Dr. appointment on Thursday.  Just a regular annual.  Everyone in the waiting room, however, was sick.  I felt fine.  Had my check up, went home, started to work on baby shower stuff and ran out of energy.  Started sneezing and became exhausted.  By dinner time I had to admit that I might be getting a cold.  By bedtime, I felt awful.  I got what everyone at the dr.’s office was coughing.  Thank you so much everyone there.  Word of advice:  Do NOT Make An Appointment For A Regular Check Up In November!!!!  Everyone else in the waiting room is sick and will share it with you. 

I went to work Saturday, felt awful.  Told my boss it was her fault since she had it the week before and kept teasing me that she wanted to share.  She laughed and just said she loves me and of course, wanted to share it.  Then on Sunday she and I went to work before 4 am.  Yes, that is before God wakes up on Sunday mornings.  Worked until after 10 (was supposed to stay until 12 but boss said she knew I wasn’t feeling well and that I had a ton of stuff to do for the shower yet – nice boss).  Went home and Mike was hungry and wanted to go out for breakfast.  Did some running for the shower, came home and took a 30 minute nap.  Thank God!  Feeling much worse by this time.  Finished wrapping baby gifts, got dressed, loaded car, spilled meatball juice out of crock pot all over floor of my SUV all the way to the shower, yippee for me.  Made it through shower, hopefullly without sharing my cold with anyone, especiallly my dear friend Renee because she is the mommy to be.

Today, I feel dead.  I am so worn out.  Between the hours I worked all weekend and having this rotten cold and the emotionally drain and the stress just from planning the shower, I would love to go to bed and wake up sometime after the new year.  Doesn’t that sound wonderful? 

Now for the really great blow of last week.  Wednesday, I was at work and one of the other managers brought one of the employees to me to tell me that she needed to go home.  I asked why and the manager said that she had found the girl sobbing in the bathroom.  Now this is an 18 year old girl, just graduated from high school a few months ago and who is going to college.  I asked what was wrong.  The girl is 4 weeks pregnant.  (Thanks for the kick in the teeth!)  She has told me since she started that she doesn’t like kids and never wants to have them.  (Since I wrote this yesterday, I have found out that she was actually TRYING to get pregnant.  She told me last night that she had ordered an Ovulation Test and hasn’t even received it yet!  How can these supposedly bright people be so stupid?)  She did not think she could get pregnant because 2 years ago she had cancer (somewhere in that female region, I can’t remember exactly), so she and her boyfriend hadn’t been worried about protection.  She was crying because she was cramping very badly.  I sent her home and told her to go to the emergency room first.  (They checked her out and everything is fine.)

I went to tell my boss that I would be shorthanded that night because this was going on.  Boss then tells me that one of the other girls (a 21 year old whose boyfriend also works there and they don’t make enough money each month to cover their apartment) is also pregnant.  We had all been thinking so for about 6 weeks or so but she finally admitted it.  (Kick in the teeth number 2.) 

By this time, I am thinking that I will never be able to eat again unless I get some dentures.  2 blows in about 5 minutes’ time.  The other manager (that had brought the girl to me) and I started talking.  We are both really upset.  I have had 3 miscarriages and she has had 5.  Both of us are trying to get pregnant.  Both of us are older than these girls.  Both of us need dentures now.  Life just isn’t fair is it?  2 girls from one small company who are too young, and don’t make enough money to support themselves are both pregnant.  One of them doesn’t even like kids and never wanted any.  (Although I think a lot of that was trying to convince herself because she thought she’d never be able to have them.) 

Well, that in a nutshell, although totally backward, was the end of my week through the weekend.  Crazy, exhausting, frustrating, very draining.  Here’s to hoping Thanksgiving week is a much better one. 

If I don’t write another page before Thursday, then I wish you all a very nice Thanksgiving.  If you are travelling, please be safe.  Enjoy your family, friends, and loved ones.  Have a blessed holiday.

 Until next time……

Holiday Shopping

November 15, 2006 at 12:10 pm | Posted in adoption, animals, children, family, friends, People, shopping | Leave a comment

Ok, Ok. I know I said I wouldn’t do commercials very often but here goes another one. Please bear with me. The holidays are coming. Big surprise there, huh. I mean T-Day is a week from tomorrow, if we can believe that. This year flew by. I know we say that every year, but it just seems to go faster and faster. Anyway……

With the holidays upon us, we are all fighting with ourselves trying to find the perfect gifts for everyone on our lists. Well, let me tell you….you know from previous posts (if you have read them) of mine that I have 2 websites aside from here and that all the money I earn from those sites are going completely into our adoption fund to bring home a baby from China. Our daughter is 11 and an only child, only grandchild on one side, and only great-grandchild on one side (both grandparents and great-grandmother that she is the only one for live within 5 miles) and the only niece/nephew for my brother (who lives only 2 hours away). Now I know you are thinking she is spoiled. Probably. Most likely. But she is a wonderful child but very lonely. She wants siblings, and everyone mentioned above wants more kids in the family (including, of course, us). My brother is not likely to have any. I don’t think he wants any. But I am getting sidetracked here….nothing new….sorry…

Back to the original plan for this post.

Avon (which I have been selling for 13 years now) has some wonderful gifts for the whole family. Some really cute holiday decorations, too. And even some pamper yourself kind of things. You should really go to my site and do some or all of your christmas shopping there. It will be sent directly to you. We have things for everyone. Moms, Dads, kids, family, neighbors, friends, everyone. Several year (when we lived in Illinois especially) I would make up a gift basket for our letter carrier. I would put a travel mug, a couple bags of tea, some Avon hand cream, lip balm and bubble bath in it. They always seemed to enjoy that because they were getting cold air all day long, so their hands and lips got chapped a lot. So try having an Avon kind of Christmas this year, and reward yourself for your brilliant idea (you can even claim it as your own and I won’t mind) with a new perfume, piece of jewelry or your favorite lipstick. Go on…you know you want to make Christmas easier this year…. There is a link on the side of my blog page that will take you directly to my Avon site.

So, you have decided to battle the crowds and shop anyway. Well, my other site might do you some good. It is called Oasis Life Sciences. Now this stuff is amazing. It is called Ageless Living. This company spent billions of dollars figuring out how and why we age. They put their knowledge on this subject into use and discovered how to slow down or even stop this process. (Taking this next part directly from my Oasis book…)  Importantly, the Oasis research team would not be content with a kitchen sink formula, but rather worked to create an advanced superfood that incorporated the latest research on a number of fronts:  1) It had to incorporate the latest scientific advances in nutrient bioavailability; 2) It had to overcome nutritional gaps in the typical American diet for the critical cell-renewal  building blocks of calcium, EFA’s, protein, antioxidants and fiber;  3) It had to be a great tasting liquid to appeal to children and the elderly alike; and 4) It had to be convenient to take in order to become a staple in the diet.  Let me tell you, they succeeded.

They have made several products. Something for every age. In fact, they say “Be better at every age”. From small children up to….any age.

The one that my husband and I use is called Ageless Xtra. It is for those of us 30 and up. (There is another for those 50 and up and still another for the younger set, plus lots of other great products.) It promotes vital energy, supports mental clarity and focus, helps manage stress, and promotes joint comfort and flexibility. (I just took that right off the bottle.) It tastes like cranberry juice. You only take 3 ounces twice a day. It gives a lot of people like a caffeine high but actually more “smooth” with focus and without the drop because there is no caffeine in it. (It is not recommended for pregnant mommies though.) It is really awesome. My husband says he gets a lot more accomplished at work. I don’t get the extra energy, but I do sleep better at night. That is just one of the products. There are many. There is stuff for losing weight, stuff for your pets to keep their age progression at bay. You name it. There are even recipes for several of the products. Some products taste like veggie juice. Some recipes make smoothies, some make dips for chips or veggies.

You really ought to check it out. Great for all those New Year’s Resolutions. This year you just might keep them with Oasis. Again the products will be shipped directly to you. Try ’em. You’ll like ’em. (There is also a direct link to my Oasis site listed in the side column.)

Many doctors swear by it. Several pro athletes as well. In fact, looking at one of my books there is an article about Alonzo Mitz and Derrick Fenner, both former pro footballers who use and love Oasis products. Derrick Fenner was drafted by the Seattle Seahawks in 1989, then went on to the Cincinnati Bengals for 3 years, then the Oakland Raiders for 4. Derrick says he is 245 pounds, his playing weight, and he has the same muscle strenth he had before thanks to Oasis. He also says that he is sharing the products with his wife and son and that is the greatest statement of his faith in them. In Derrick’s words, “I wouldn’t put my family on these products unless I could believe in them. Bottom line? I’ve seen them work.” (All of the information directly about Derrick came straight from my Oasis book.) Need more? How about Erin Diegel a pro golfer, or Tara Lynn Carrillo a personal trainer turned fitness pro? Now you know you just have to check this stuff out even if you have never heard of these pro athletes.

The best part is you don’t have to leave the comfort of your own home. Unless or course you love to battle crowds, find parking and then have to walk 2 miles before you even get to the mall, battle more crowds, I have seen people on the news even get into fights over products on the shelves, etc., etc., etc. Let’s not even talk about the weather for those of you who don’t live where it is warm and beautiful like Phoenix. If you are determined to do all this, then I just can’t help you but for you people I will be praying throughout the season. For your safety as well as your sanity. God help you.

So, if none of the incentives about Avon or Oasis grab you, maybe my reasons (listed above) for having these two sites will. Please help us to earn the money to adopt our baby. We can support another child, but coming up with roughly $20 – $25 grand to accomplish this goal is a huge mountain. So, please find it in your hearts to check out our sites, buy some gifts or something for yourself and pass on these websites to everyone you know. You will be greatly blessed by helping others, you’ll look great!, and you will always be in our thoughts and prayers as the wonderful friends who made our family a little bigger, a lot happier, and gave an orphan baby a new life.

Ok, I think I am done with my commercial. Thank you for bearing with me and for all your help and prayers. Hopefully soon I will start having some exciting updates for you all. We wish every one a safe, and wonderful holiday season.

May God bless every one of you.

Until next time….

Baby Blankets and Birds

November 14, 2006 at 2:16 pm | Posted in animals, family, friends | Leave a comment

Hi all! This weekend I am hosting, yes hosting, a baby shower for a very good friend of mine. Any one of you going through fertility problems knows how hard this is going to be. I am hosting with a mutual friend (whom I like but she is one of those friends that you can only take so much of because after about 30 seconds she gets on your nerves! but somehow you are friends anyway). The point of this isn’t really about the shower. Really. Although, the mutual friend and the pregnant friend decided that we could organize, invite, plan, and throw this shower in 2 weeks time. I begged for 3 or 4 weeks but I was outvoted. Now I am scrambling! ARGH!!!!

Anyway, I have been crocheting my fingers to the bone! I am trying to get a baby blanket done before the shower. I just started it on Saturday. Working like a fiend except when I am on line or working. I crochet while homeschooling our daughter. I crochet while watching tv (like I ever get a chance to do that!). I’ll be crocheting while waiting for my Grandma tomorrow while she is in her doctor appointment that I have the priviledge of driving her to.

Yesterday, while working on the blanket I had help from 3 of our cockatiels. (We have 5 ‘tiels all together.) Today it was our Blue Fronted Amazon. That is right. In addition to trying to have another baby in one way or another, we have pets. Lots of them. We have adopted most of them. Mainly because people know we have one (of whatever) and they know someone who has one that needs a new home.

So, here I was trying to crochet and the cockatiels thought I needed help pulling the yarn out of the skein. Today, the Amazon thought I wasn’t doing it right so she had to help me use the crochet hook. Well, you know, it is red, shiny, metal, and impossible to chew up therefore, one must try harder over and over. Very intriguing. Of course, you have to be a bird to understand this logic or at least live with one.

Well, back to the whole baby shower thing. I have to be at work at 5 AM on Sunday, work until at least 1 and I probably won’t take a break just so I can finish. Then go to the mutual friend’s house for the shower at 3 (20 minutes away). Then go out to dinner with my boss and the rest of our managers at 8 PM. Boss is paying. Dinner is a celebration and thank you from
her. Nice.

I dread Sunday simply because everything is on the same flipping day. I am going to be very exhausted and very crabby. My poor husband and daughter. Then Monday it is back to work as usual. Homeschool during the day and work at 3. I am tired already thinking of it.

Besides all the work, is the emotional BS of dealing with a baby shower. Depressing. I am extremely happy for my friend and excited for her (her due date is Christmas eve) but …well…you all know what I mean.

I guess I’d better get ready for work now. I have to leave in just a few minutes and I am far behind already. Behinder and Behinder every day.

Have a great time until we meet again……

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